Everyone calls you sensitive?
You have strong emotions and do not know what to do with them?
You don’t understand what is happening to you?
You want to know whether you are controlled by your own mind or your emotions are running you?
I was always called sensitive. From a young age I was told I needed to toughen up so that I can survive in the world. I was brought up with the thought that being sensitive is a weakness. And I bought into that belief for a long time.
My eagerness to understand emotions came from my own blocks when things just did not seem to go well in my life. My relationships have suffered, my work progress was frustrating and slow and just generally did not feel good about what I was doing and how I was feeling.
I have spent the last five years studying emotions. You can study them intellectually but before I could blink, deeply moving experiences brought me to the edge of understanding that sensitivity is, in fact, a gift. Without sensitivity, we cannot relate to the world of emotions. When we are sensitive, we are deeply honest and the only part of us that is 100% honest is our emotions.
We live in a world where many of us are intellectually brilliant, physically resourceful, spiritually imaginative, but we are emotionally underdeveloped. Yet, emotions are the key to our decision- making, our ability to connect and lead our lives with more contentment and intention. Curious? Here are 5 facts you probably did not know about emotions and how they relate to the brain
Fact 1. It is a fact that not everyone is born emotionally fluent. For some people identifying and talking about emotions does not come off the hip. While there might be a storm brewing inside of us, we are, at times, unable to find the words to feel at ease with or articulate those strong emotions. And it is ok. The more we learn about ourselves, our patterns and emotional reactions, the more fluent we become emotionally. It is lifelong learning we will all have to take at some point in our lives. So we might just get started today!
Fact 2. Brain Chemicals Influence Your Mood– ever wondered why your mood changes without you doing anything in particular? Well, as it turns out, our brain has something to do with it. The three neurotransmitters (dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine) can flare or moderate our moods and can lead to anxiety, anger or even depression. These chemicals, in various degrees, influence the way we feel and they are best received when our mind is quiet and receptive. What does it mean in practice? Our emotions run deep and by being aware of them we can be successful training our reactions that grow out of them. The simple act of labelling an emotion can help you tremendously to free yourself from frustration, overreacting or supressing. The result? Clear thinking, effective problem solving and peace of mind (and heart). Which is what we all like, right?
Fact 3. Our Brain has specific parts that respond to specific emotions– understanding this is the key as we learn about ourselves. Our limbic system, the emotional brain is a powerful place to look for life solutions. Knowing our amygdala, hippocampus and pre-frontal cortex will provide solutions to our emotional challenges and increase our potential as leaders, managers and partners both at work or in our personal life.
Fact 4. Your Left and Right Hemispheres help to keep your emotions in check. Our two hemispheres are responsible for certain functions and it is the same with emotions. While the right brain has the ability to identify a negative emotion, it alerts the left brain that will then make a logical decision to interpret it. So next time you are feeling a little blue, ask your right brain to help you identify the emotion you are felling and call upon your left brain to assist you in interpreting it.
Fact 5. Your memories are driving your emotions. Every emotional memory, good and bad, in your life makes and impression and your hippocampus, amygdala and hypothalamus work together to create an imprint in your mind about this memory. The more intense your emotional memory, the more intense your reaction will be to a current event that might trigger it. The good news is that you can trace and retrain your mind for better results by rewiring your emotional patterns. It is deep heart work that will make you feel free, open and natural. The bad news is that there is some work you do need to do about this. It takes practice. It is a work of discipline and consistency.
Working with emotions is part of the work I do as a coach this is how I can work with you:
I have a kind courage to help you identifying emotional patterns. My clarity and honesty will help you make friends with them and I bring my playful self and fun to take a trip in your mind to understand your emotions so that you can do the work you love, be the person you are and have the life you are daydreaming about.
Would you like to try a free session with me? Here is my online calendar where you can book a session with me: https://heartsmartcoaching.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php