For every Question in the Head there is an answer in the Heart


This is our second week here in Ronda and our very first week in our new home.  I love that here people call their houses by names like their surname or their children’s name. I have named our casa the House of Healing.

This week has been about homes- finding one, choosing the one I want to live for the next year and settling in. After a disorientating week of traveling here, I am finally making a home and creating comfort.

As I talk to the locals here, I keep being asked: why did you give up your comfort in London? Why did you really come here?

Firstly, I chose  a life that felt right. Not because it is more comfortable, as it is certainly not. I did not choose it because I had nowhere else to go. Neither did I come here purely for spiritual reasons but I was rather driven by a yearning that could not be silenced- I needed healing. My heart has been broken and life in London only made it worse. I was sitting in a pit of my own life and I could not see what it could look if I was truly honouring my heart.

Secondly, I chose  my heart over my head. The whole last month of logistic nightmare of organizing our coming over here is still hanging above my head.  I wake up in the middle of the night thinking what have I just done…? Henrietta, what in the world were you thinking…? I do get scared but somewhat I feel more hopeful that I can give a chance to a life of meaning and purpose.

I cannot help it but show you one of the views on our walks. How can I not feel connected to something bigger than myself when I see this?


At times we must take a hike into the wilderness of life to feel challenged and re-evaluate what is really important. I love what this place offers me-solitude, gentleness, connection with nature and God and a path to pursue my heart. I am so glad I left Miss Bossy Boots back in London and  now I am finding my way back to my own heart- learning how to be gentle again, connecting with good people, practice humility, openness and holding my dreams like precious stones.

Thirdly, I chose  to move towards an answer to the question that kept shouting in my head: What do you want your children watch you had done? What legacy would you want to leave behind? I felt that this year is quite possibly the only time I could do this. It might sound like a sort of “now or never” type of reaction and it probably is but I wanted to grab life, rather than watch it crawl away in front of my own eyes.

We may live a simpler, less complicated life here but we are creating a legacy that all of us will remember for the rest of our lives. While I am writing my book, we are writing a family story together and this adventure is worth more than any earned money could ever repay me for.

I have some questions for you this week:

If you could CHOOSE a legacy, what would that be?

What do you want your loved ones watch you have done?

How could you listen to your heart deeper and more intimately to start creating your legacy?

As always, I am curious about your discoveries and would love to be part of your journey, so please share your story with us by commenting or get in touch with me personally! I love heart stories (but you know that already!)

Keep checking back for my “Interviews” series in which I bring you stories of people who have followed their heart and made giant leaps in making their heart dreams real!

Coming soon!

In the meantime, have a look at some of the most popular TED talks of recent years. Leadership, creativity, education, running a business…all driven by intelligent hearts.

How do you choose to lead your life this week?

Sir Ken Robinson says schools kill creativity (2006): 23,510,221 views

Simon Sinek on how great leaders inspire action (2010): 14,228,854

Brene Brown talks about the power of vulnerability (2010): 12,703,623

Tony Robbins asks why we do what we do (2006): 10,425,014

Elizabeth Gilbert on nurturing your creative genius (2009): 7,593,076

Steve Jobs on how to live before you die (2005): 7,223,258

Susan Cain shares the power of introverts (2012): 6,807,240

Keith Barry does brain magic (2004): 6,371,778






2 thoughts on “For every Question in the Head there is an answer in the Heart

  1. Slm Henna
    I felt just like you when I upped sticks and moved to Pakistan for 9 months. It was a momentous move for us as a family but it came from a yearning that there has to be more to life than the rat race. Although it was scary, it was also challenging and life affirming. The memories I made for the children and myself, still make me smile today. Keep your spirits high and know you are doing an amazing thing. Luv and duas Fozia

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